Men....

Its official, I don't understand them. After spending a lifetime in friend circles with male:female ratio of not less than 4:2, this realization is as baffling to me as it is to my male friends, who are quite displeased at having suddenly become the victims of my torrential outbursts. Its not that I have suddenly fallen victim to the "You Male Chauvinist Pig" feminism, I still really care about and enjoy hanging out with my friends, just that having grown up together with quite a few of them they are becoming quite incomprehensible to me with age.

These "What has gotten into you!!!" looks that I get as responses to my nor-subtle-neither-polite clarifications about their conduct, are rather ironical, for I ask only why they are the way they are....

I mean what is it with men and muscle anyways? Invariably, if you ask a man to be strong, you will find him going through the catalogues of various gym facilities in the area and discussing what weights to pump with his other male friends!!!????

Being a fitness freak myself, I don't undermine the importance of the right kind of work-out, and well, being a girl I am pretty habitual of the "calorie-inch" arithmetic as well, but it does stop somewhere....and much before you can pump 50Kgs 50 times twice a day!! Strength is so much more a quality of mind than body....If you are a man with a strong character, beliefs and principles, you are strong enough....


And then there are fathers...all the men that I have observed or known till date fall in 2, yes ONLY 2 categories..."I hate my father and I am NEVER going to be anything like him" or "I just wanna be like DAD"... how many girls have you met till date who say they hate their mothers or that they want to be just like her??I have met none. Its not that girls don't idealize their parents, I love my mother deeply and I think she's one helluva lady and yet I don't want to be like her.I just want to be me.

And this becomes so ironical when these men have kids of their own, because they are always trying to create either the exact replica or the exact opposite of the relationships they had with their fathers...they end up worrying more about their fathers and them, than them and their kids...I once went out with a friend who was quite upset...he had quarreled with his father the previous night because his father had given a big tip in a restaurant despite the service tax.While we were leaving, I couldn't help but notice the "Keep the Change" nod he gave to the waiter...and then there's another whose father gave him a looooooooooong lecture (3 hrs to be precise) on "You should be more open & communicative with me when I am so frank with you, my father didn't know how to talk,he only lectured...."

Will these men be any different with their kids 10 years from now? Will they ever understand that girls prefer men who have strength of mind and character...even a mad bull is physically strong!!??!! Would they ever know that...oh well the list goes on

I guess I'll just have to wait and watch.....Till then may be I should just content myself with "Men will be men"!

You know this much circulated joke about a guy having 3 options to marry, a pretty girl, a considerate girl and a pragmatic girl and how the guy picks the pretty one.......I just tried it on a friend who I think is one the most sensible guys I have met till date, and pat came the reply "...the pretty one ofcourse..." , he was just being honest ofcourse.....

The sands of time are slipping away...
....I hadn't finished my castle yet....